Whether it’s teenagers or people in their 40s, the rules of the game do not change a lot when it comes to your first date. So, a few points to consider before we start off on the dating game:
- Why am I going out with him or her?
- Is it just a casual date or should I read more into it?
- Do I need to do things just because all my friends do the same things when they go for their dates or I should try to be more like myself?
Now these answers are just for your own self, find them out and know what you are really looking forward to. The preparations will become very exciting and fun once you know what you have in store for your own self.
Let’s look at few tips which can help you in your first date:
- Ambience/Aura:
It really does not matter whether you are a guy or a girl, selection of the venue for the date can be done by any of you. So try to think out of the box and pick out the destination very carefully, as ambience can be a very important factor for your date. Instead of a normal ‘movie and dinner’ plan, try and look into something new and contemporary like a beachside walk or a trekking and campfire trip. Even a fun fair might add an extra edge to you date. All said and done, choosing which option to go in for entirely depends on the liking of your partner, so try to keep his/her choices and personality in mind and select a place. - Instinctive/initiative:
Many a times, people end up not talking much when they go out for the first time with someone, which could be a bit of a turn off. Try and shed some inhibitions and pick up topics you both would be able to chat on. Try to show your enthusiasm to your date so that he/she will also reciprocate with equal fervor. Suggest a place to go to and keep the conversation going in interesting directions. However, remember do not overdo it, it might give an impression that you are dominating, so keep it low but apparent. - Tickle the funny bone:
Having a sense of humor is always an advantage, and when it comes to dating, this becomes a distinct advantage. This will always make the other person feel comfortable and he/she will open up to you faster. - Axe the exes:
Now before reading this one, a disclaimer- please do not go for any literal meanings anywhere! What we mean here is it’s the biggest turn off to talk about one’s ex on the first date. Being honest is necessary, but do not get to the gory details about previous relationships. Keep this in mind and proceed, you will have a great date. - Never harp about your glories:
A big turn off on a date is when one of the partner starts harping about one’s own accomplishments rather than paying attention whether the other person is even remotely interested in that topic. If you want to talk about your achievements then drop subtle hints here and there, and when you see no response, stop it right there. - Do not be a pretentious douche:
Everybody wants to have a great impression on his partner after their first date, but that does not mean that you will be pretentious and start making false claims about yourself. Also, avoid faking things and try to be just yourself. This might just get you another chance to go out to explore more. - Judging Jeopardy:
Making presumptions about people and forming judgments about them just after a few conversations is easy, but it’s the most risky thing to do. Do not show the other person that you already have formed an opinion about him/her. Give the other person a chance and make an effort to understand the other person as well. - The Domination Ditch:
Many a times we do not even realize that in the process of wanting our own wishes to be addressed, we become rather dominating. On your first date, follow the golden rule of not to be dominating at all. Try to always ask the other person for his/her liking and then go ahead. In conversations as well, do not yield to the temptation of being aggressive about your beliefs. If you don’t have a kind streak in you- time to grow one now! - No probing: Surely, the first date is for both of you to know each other better, but that in no way means it’s an opportunity to keep asking the other person all sorts of questions in your mind. Do not ask pointed questions all of a sudden. Give it a bit of time, and if you are good, you will get to know everything about the other person.
- Be friends: Confused? Why is the final tip telling you to be “friends” when you have already come out on a date with that person? Well, the first step in building a relationship is being friends with each other. In the entire process of impressing the other person always, remember to become good friends with him/her and only then you will be able to look forward to more such dates.
So when you are preparing for your first date,take a look at these tips and go ahead. You will surely be at your best and that’s the only pre-requisite for a first date!
